Do I need to be legally separated before moving out with the kids?
As a couple with children, divorce can become even more difficult. Custody battles and separation difficulties can draw out a marriage for years, and you don’t want to move out and risk not only angering your children’s’ parent but also land in legal trouble. Moving out without a separation agreement or any prior custody arrangements can lead to greater risks that complicate the divorce and emotionally harm everyone involved. Before you consider packing up and leaving with the kids, here are some important aspects of child custody and divorce separation to consider.
Moving Out Without Custody
It’s understandable to want to move out as soon as possible after you and your partner have decided to get a divorce. It’s not comfortable when you’re no longer together but living under the same roof, and children are perceptive and able to tell when their parents are no longer happy together.
You and your ex-partner may even be prone to arguing in front of your children, which only exacerbates the difficult feelings of guilt, sadness and anger associated with a divorce.
Is Moving Out Kidnapping?
You may want to move away with your children before the separation is even finalized, but this could be forbidden depending on your state. Most states have laws in place that prevent parents from being unjustly separated from their children during a divorce.
Most states entitle both parents to full custody of their children until a separation or divorce are finalized or other legal custody arrangements are made. If you take your children abruptly and disappear to another state, you could be charged with kidnapping.
When you file for divorce, the Parental Kidnapping Prevention Act grants jurisdiction in future custody proceedings. The Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act (UCCJEA) enforces your home state as the location in which all custody proceedings must take place. You cannot take your children out of the state during this time. The “home state” under the UCCJEA is where your children resided for at least six months prior to the divorce filing.
Moving to prevent your children from seeing their parent without due cause and evidence could be deemed “parental alienation,” which can be used against you in a court of law. Not only does preventing a child from seeing their parent potentially risk the equality of a future custody agreement, but you could also be causing significant emotional and mental harm to your children in the process.
Legal Separation and Custody
A legal separation is a way to arrange a custody agreement that reduces any risks with moving as relocation can be a part of the initial custody arrangement. If you have sole custody, you are able to make all legal decisions regarding your child(ren).
While one parent may have the ability to move, doing so with the intention of cutting off contact to the other parent could be considered parental alienation. Depending on your state, even with sole custody, you may still need permission from the non-custodial parent in order to relocate to a new state.
Moving out of the home, however, could be a part of the custody agreement and deemed in the best interest for the children. Most judges award custody to parents with the intention of maintaining as much stability as possible for the minors during this turbulent time.
Joint physical custody allow children to reside with each of their parents equally in different locations. This type of arrangement is typically ideal for parents who want to live separately but do not wish to lose time with their children.
Joint legal custody differs from joint physical custody in that each parent has equal say over children’s education, healthcare, religious affiliations and so on. Moving without permission from a parent could be done, but it could also be considered a court violation that can lead to a loss of custody on the offending parent’s behalf.
Should I Get Legally Separated Before Moving Out?
Moving out before a divorce is finalized is a lot easier in cases of couples who don’t share children. When it comes to cases of parents seeking a divorce, you can’t be too careful. Unless domestic violence or emergency situations demand you relocate, it’s better to have a legal separation and custody arrangement prior to moving out of the family home.
Without any legal agreements in place, it’s much easier for a parent to isolate the other from the children or turn the custody hearing in their favor. In some cases, parents who leave without a custody arrangement can be charged with kidnapping, and you could go to jail if you take your children and move across state lines without any warning or agreement from their other parent.
Speaking to a divorce lawyer and arranging a legal separation protects the entire family. When it comes to getting a legal separation, it’s best to act sooner rather than later and leave no questions unanswered. The main priority during any parent’s divorce should be to minimize the damage and pain for their children and help them transition into their new lives as easily as possible